While bullying says more about the bully than it does about you, you are the one who has to learn to stand up for yourself, according to Lynne Curry in her book Beating the Workplace Bully: A Tactical Guide to Taking Charge. Those who do not stand up to the bully’s initial attack signal they are easy prey and inadvertently encourage continued bullying. Even if what is happening is not your fault, you are the one who must fix it, because you cannot expect the bully to change.
The book goes on to provide a range of suggestions including strategies for dealing with people who intimidate, strategies for building self-confidence, and ways of strengthening your “fighting-back” muscles. The author identifies a number of different types of bullies, such as the scorched-earth fighter, the silent grenade, the shape-shifter and the wounded rhino, and provides different tactics for confronting each.
Regrettably, bullying is a very common form of anti-social behaviour in workplaces, making life unpleasant for those who observe it or suffer from it. This book does not provide a magical cure which will stamp out the disease, but it does provide a number of self-defence moves which, if applied with a degree of courage and determination, can help to make the situation more bearable.